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Profile text:# About Me & What I'm After
I'm here to look, chat, make new friends, and play around a bit. Ideally I am looking for a casual FWB setup without the weight or pressure of a long-term relationship. Someone to enjoy going out with and and maybe some playing if the chemistry is right. I've stepped back from the traditional dating scene to focus entirely on personal growth and rediscovering myself. To give you some context: I've been widowed since 2021, following two major, long-term relationships (one 12-year and one 8-year chapter).
I am cautious and cynical at first, but once the ice is broken, I'm incredibly friendly, open, and easy to talk to. Let's see where a good conversation goes.
# What Catches My Eye
I know exactly what I like: I have a massive soft spot for silver foxes, kind eyes, and well-groomed salt-and-pepper or silver beards. To me, intelligence, personality, and a genuine, sincere smile will get my attention way faster than a cock pic. Don't get me wrong, they're nice, but most of us here have one, have seen plenty, and have done way more than just look (I know I have, more than a few times)-so it's nothing new or interesting. That said, please have a recent face pic ready to share if it's not already posted...
# The Compatibility Checklist
To save us both some time and energy:
* Body Type: I'm a bigger, hefty guy and definitely don't fall into the HWP category. If that's a dealbreaker for you, no hard feelings, but we won't be a match.
* Dealbreakers: I am completely incompatible with Trump supporters, or closeted/married men. If being 100% discreet is a strict necessity for you, please pass me by.
* Safety: I prefer to keep the conversation right here on the platform safely at first, so no requests to immediately jump to alternative messaging services, please.
# The Core Stats (INTJ)
Just for the quick reference for the curious and those in the know: I am a definitive INTJ according to the 16personalities MB test. If you know the type, none of this should surprise you at all:
* Introverted: 92%
* Intuitive: 59%
* Thinking: 60%
* Judging: 57%
# Hours, Hobbies, & The Social Battery
I work 12-hour overnight shifts at a local hospital. Between the screwy graveyard schedule and being a massive introvert, I sometimes struggle with maintaining rapid-fire conversations. If I don't respond immediately, I promise I'm not ghosting-I'm just asleep or recharging my social battery.
When I do have downtime, I'm usually lost in a book or an audiobook. My tastes lean heavily toward sci-fi, fantasy, horror, and lit-RPG genres. I also enjoy solo gaming, drawing, painting, movies, and have a deep appreciation for the live arts-including ballet, Broadway shows, and the opera.
# My Spiritual Alignment
On the spiritual side of things, I come from a Roman Catholic background but have spent time exploring various beliefs, including paganism. These days, I land firmly as an agnostic and am perfectly content with my own personal path. If I have to be classified at all, my philosophies align more with Buddhism-though definitely not the passive, safe-for-TV Western pop-culture stereotype. Think less quiet, fragile ascetic, and more along the lines of Ikkyū Sōjun (the 15th-century Zen iconoclast who mocked the dogmatic establishment by drinking in brothels and carrying a wooden sword) or an MCU Wong vibe. I'm always open to learning about how other people view the universe, but I have zero plans to ever join an organized religion again, and I've developed a pretty strong distaste for the Abrahamic ones.
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